raman Staff asked 5 years ago
Relationships are not easy. Break ups hurt the most. What are the ways to get past the break up? What do you think can help? Please answer.
Subhash Staff answered 5 years ago
Break ups are never easy. More the attachment, more is the pain while letting go. The mind is in turmoil as the expectations did not materialize and now the situation is unpleasant to the mind. The mind process creates a cloud of unrest and torture. It is not a physical process, but a mental one and to move one there is no option but to acknowledge and accept that the relationship has indeed ended.
Now, you have ample time to devote to yourself and you can now do as you please with it. While many would suggest rushing into another relationship, but it will only divert the mind from trauma and make thing further complicated.
The best way to get over break ups are:
- Let Go – remove everything that connects you with that person and the relationship. Give away, donate or junk it. It is part of the past which is no longer needed.
- Go creative – join clay modeling or sculpture classes where hours of meditative silence with a creative mind output will put mind at ease.
- Make friends – while you are there, say hello to those in your class. spend a few minutes discussing their works and appreciate their perspectives.
- Read books – Some of the most interesting books that will help you are by the enlightened master – OSHO. Look up online you will find them easily available.
- Become health conscious – join Yoga, Meditation or REiki classes and feel the difference.
- Go for a retreat – This works really well. You can go for Vipassana courses anywhere in the world for free at http://www.dhamma.org.
- Go Traveling – Explore a place you always wanted to visit, go alone, absorb every moment connecting with people around you. Click pictures, write a journal, rejuvenate.
- Learn something new – Ever thought of yourself becoming a writer or a poet? Try writing a few lines and reflect on your subconscious. Painting, photography, pottery, dance and drama classes are available everywhere.
- Learn to Forgive – As you settle in the flow of your new life, you will notice that the scars are still there and you may still feel the pain reflecting on the turn of events. Want to get over it? While going to sleep go deep in your heart and forgive all for all the wrong they did. Clean your heart and let go for the connection forever.
- Learn to Love – Just because this relationship did not work it does not mean that none will work. Be open, grow beyond your current thought process and be open for new possibilities. Be who you are, be original and be honest, so that when someone chooses to be with you is because of who you truly are and not some image you are projecting.
Moving on is all about coming to terms with yourself and rising above your experiences. Learning from it and becoming better. If you have the ability to see past the turmoil of the mind process, you will realize that it takes only a moment to forgive and move on, but alas, the ego is what keeps us tortured.
adinah barlow Staff answered 12 months ago
Overcoming a breakup is a challenging process that requires time and self-care. Here are some strategies to help you navigate through this difficult period:
Allow Yourself to Grieve: It’s important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel the pain and sadness associated with the breakup.
Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for emotional support. Talking about your feelings can provide comfort and help you gain perspective. Consider connecting with experts for guidance and support in enhancing your relationships.
Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries with your ex-partner to create emotional space. This might include limiting contact, unfollowing on social media, and creating distance to facilitate healing.
Focus on Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being. Prioritize activities that bring you joy, exercise regularly, eat healthily, and ensure you get enough sleep.
Reflect and Learn: Use this time for self-reflection. Identify lessons learned from the relationship and breakup, and consider how you can grow as an individual.
Engage in New Activities: Explore new hobbies or revisit old ones. This can help distract you from negative thoughts and introduce a sense of novelty and excitement into your life.
Set Goals: Establish personal and professional goals. Working towards something positive can give you a sense of purpose and accomplishment.
Mindfulness and Meditation: Practice mindfulness to stay present and manage anxiety. Meditation can help calm your mind and promote emotional well-being.
Avoid Rebound Relationships: Give yourself time before entering into a new relationship. It’s important to heal and rediscover your identity before committing to someone else.
Forgive and Let Go: Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean condoning actions but releasing the emotional hold the breakup has on you. Letting go allows you to move forward with a lighter heart.
Remember, healing is a gradual process, and everyone copes differently. Be patient with yourself and seek professional help if needed. It’s okay to ask for support as you navigate through the emotions associated with a breakup.